Hi there, I am back, sorry I have been away.
Over the last few years, I have, more and more, reached back into the roots of my lives quest: To help myself and others have a more fulfilling, more enjoyable and more free life. To this end, my studies into Zen and other Buddhism; Philosophy and its liberating qualities; Psychology the application of it to life: has led me to Mindfulness and Positive Living.
I have been running 'Relaxation, Meditation, and Self Hypnosis', it was a good foundation, thus developing it to be 'Mindfulness and Positive Living' will make it into one awesome course.
Here is some of what is being said about the two elements:
Positivity:
http://www.express.co.uk/life-style/health/562227/Positive-thinking-live-longer-cut-risk-heart-attack-experts
https://www.facebook.com/powerofpositivity
Mindfulness:
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jan/11/julie-myerson-mindfulness-based-cognitive-therapy
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/06/mindfulness-hospitals-schools
If you live in or around Milton Keynes and would like to take part, please contact me through my e mail.
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Monday, April 23, 2007
STRESS
Here is a useful artical on stress
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6574757.stm
All stress can be tackled. Now I work on line with people to help them reduce their stress.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6574757.stm
All stress can be tackled. Now I work on line with people to help them reduce their stress.
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Silent Addiction
The silent addiction to everyday painkillers
By ISLA WHITCROFT - Last updated at 10:30am on 13th February 2007 Daily Mail
How easy just to ‘pop a pill’ to resolve life’s problems. It’s almost demanded of us by our loved ones, our family, our bosses. What is your survival tipple? Painkillers, alcohol, coffee, chocolate, cigarettes, or is it illegal drugs?
When it is just now and then, or it in small amounts, it is in your control. However, when you find that your taking more; or you cannot stop; or its everyday, then you will need help.
What help is there? In most cases, it is very important to get to the cause and resolve it. Without doing this the sufferer will return to addictive behaviour, often in another form.
Counselling, hypnotherapy, CBT, NLP all work well. Here is two new set of initials to note, TFT and EFT. These are based on acupuncture yet needs no needles. Also, it is you who apply the solution. I use these as well as the others.
By ISLA WHITCROFT - Last updated at 10:30am on 13th February 2007 Daily Mail
How easy just to ‘pop a pill’ to resolve life’s problems. It’s almost demanded of us by our loved ones, our family, our bosses. What is your survival tipple? Painkillers, alcohol, coffee, chocolate, cigarettes, or is it illegal drugs?
When it is just now and then, or it in small amounts, it is in your control. However, when you find that your taking more; or you cannot stop; or its everyday, then you will need help.
What help is there? In most cases, it is very important to get to the cause and resolve it. Without doing this the sufferer will return to addictive behaviour, often in another form.
Counselling, hypnotherapy, CBT, NLP all work well. Here is two new set of initials to note, TFT and EFT. These are based on acupuncture yet needs no needles. Also, it is you who apply the solution. I use these as well as the others.
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Suffer Little Children!
A very brutal apprenticeship
By MICHELLE DEWBERRY - More by this author » Last updated at 00:11am on 15th February 2007 Daily Mail
In the article Michelle tells of the brutality of her father against herself and her mother. How this blighted her life yet made her strong.
Some might see the story as how adversity can lead to a strong self. This may be true for some however for most it never gives anything but pain, fear and suffering. Brutalising of a child often leads to problems in adult life being unable to form relationships. The mother being beaten can lead to the child believing that it is normal. After all, humans only know what they learn and childhood is the most influential time for learning who we are.
Michelle does not mention any form of therapy. However her mother showed great strength in breaking away from the father. Now some again will say that For those who are still traumatised by the events of their childhood, therapy is there to help.
For this kind of trauma, hypnotherapy, with NLP and counselling is a successful combination and has lead to many gaining control of their lives.
By MICHELLE DEWBERRY - More by this author » Last updated at 00:11am on 15th February 2007 Daily Mail
In the article Michelle tells of the brutality of her father against herself and her mother. How this blighted her life yet made her strong.
Some might see the story as how adversity can lead to a strong self. This may be true for some however for most it never gives anything but pain, fear and suffering. Brutalising of a child often leads to problems in adult life being unable to form relationships. The mother being beaten can lead to the child believing that it is normal. After all, humans only know what they learn and childhood is the most influential time for learning who we are.
Michelle does not mention any form of therapy. However her mother showed great strength in breaking away from the father. Now some again will say that For those who are still traumatised by the events of their childhood, therapy is there to help.
For this kind of trauma, hypnotherapy, with NLP and counselling is a successful combination and has lead to many gaining control of their lives.
Hypochrondia is not a joke
I thought I was dying for six years so don't tell me hypochrondia is a joke
By NATASHA COURTENAY-SMITH - Last updated at 23:41pm on 12th February 2007 Daily Mail
Many people suffer from anxiety disorders, about 10% of the population. It can range from just checking symptoms against … to debilitating beliefs that the contact with anyone and any thing will kill. It is worthwhile reading the above article because it gives much of the horrors a suffer goes through.
It is also worth reading the comments because, although most are sympathetic or even empathetic, there are those who cannot understand. They have the ‘curtains’ solution to the problem. I.E. ‘Pull yourself together!’ The problem with that solution is – if the person could – they would because being in this state is so destructive.
Another solution is drugs, both prescribed and illegal. They can only hold you where you are and in the case of illegal drugs, make things much worse. That is not to say the short term relief of the drugs.
The woman in the article was given CBT. This is a powerful psychotherapy solution which can be made even more powerful with hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have worked with many people suffering from illness anxiety and helped them to a happier life. The three tools I mention help any form of anxiety.
By NATASHA COURTENAY-SMITH - Last updated at 23:41pm on 12th February 2007 Daily Mail
Many people suffer from anxiety disorders, about 10% of the population. It can range from just checking symptoms against … to debilitating beliefs that the contact with anyone and any thing will kill. It is worthwhile reading the above article because it gives much of the horrors a suffer goes through.
It is also worth reading the comments because, although most are sympathetic or even empathetic, there are those who cannot understand. They have the ‘curtains’ solution to the problem. I.E. ‘Pull yourself together!’ The problem with that solution is – if the person could – they would because being in this state is so destructive.
Another solution is drugs, both prescribed and illegal. They can only hold you where you are and in the case of illegal drugs, make things much worse. That is not to say the short term relief of the drugs.
The woman in the article was given CBT. This is a powerful psychotherapy solution which can be made even more powerful with hypnotherapy and NLP.
I have worked with many people suffering from illness anxiety and helped them to a happier life. The three tools I mention help any form of anxiety.
Friday, February 2, 2007
Stress, Health and Weight control
"Thousands are claiming incapacity benefits for stress in sicknote Britain"
Last updated at 22:00pm on 31st January 2007 (Daily Mail)
My Reply to this article:
As a Hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and Stress Manager I have indeed seen my work load increase over the years. Most comes from the workplace and spreads into relationships, spending, addictions and anti social behaviour. The one problem I am coming across even more is that of prolonged duress stress disorder.
As for being spongers and scroungers; my clients pay for all their treatment and are often higher management including MDs. I therefore come to the conclusion that it is very real.
It is so a pity that my services are not available on the NHS because I would want to help all despite ability to pay.
More…
Many of the replies to the article gave person experiences of stress and related problems. Most talked about how devastating stress had been. There was also mush about how he NHS could not cope with their particular problem.
Some hark on about how it’s all a con and they should just pull themselves together. “My question to you is: Is it the stress – anxiety – illness real to you?” If the problem is real, then there is so many way that help you. For instance, if the problem is bulling at work then developing assertiveness plus an ability to remain calm is so useful and well within most hypnotherapist and NLP practitioners skills.
‘My quest for size zero'
by DAWN PORTER - Last updated at 08:59am on 1st February 2007 Daily Mail
pressure – pressure – pressure
Why all this pressure to be thin? It is good to be within a certain weight for height ratio, however to be below is as dangerous as being over weight. And as I have said before, the quest alone can be very damaging to your body and the attempts to remain slim.
The most useful method is to listen to your body, it knows best, it will return you to happy and safe weight levels. This is the method that Paul McKenna uses and he gets very high success rates. A key element in such a programme is to work on body image and how you feel.
Last updated at 22:00pm on 31st January 2007 (Daily Mail)
My Reply to this article:
As a Hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and Stress Manager I have indeed seen my work load increase over the years. Most comes from the workplace and spreads into relationships, spending, addictions and anti social behaviour. The one problem I am coming across even more is that of prolonged duress stress disorder.
As for being spongers and scroungers; my clients pay for all their treatment and are often higher management including MDs. I therefore come to the conclusion that it is very real.
It is so a pity that my services are not available on the NHS because I would want to help all despite ability to pay.
More…
Many of the replies to the article gave person experiences of stress and related problems. Most talked about how devastating stress had been. There was also mush about how he NHS could not cope with their particular problem.
Some hark on about how it’s all a con and they should just pull themselves together. “My question to you is: Is it the stress – anxiety – illness real to you?” If the problem is real, then there is so many way that help you. For instance, if the problem is bulling at work then developing assertiveness plus an ability to remain calm is so useful and well within most hypnotherapist and NLP practitioners skills.
‘My quest for size zero'
by DAWN PORTER - Last updated at 08:59am on 1st February 2007 Daily Mail
pressure – pressure – pressure
Why all this pressure to be thin? It is good to be within a certain weight for height ratio, however to be below is as dangerous as being over weight. And as I have said before, the quest alone can be very damaging to your body and the attempts to remain slim.
The most useful method is to listen to your body, it knows best, it will return you to happy and safe weight levels. This is the method that Paul McKenna uses and he gets very high success rates. A key element in such a programme is to work on body image and how you feel.
Thursday, January 18, 2007
Phobias and Holidays
I have just been watching today’s edition of ‘Doctors’ (BBC1 2.05). It was called ‘Wings and Needles’. Part of the synopsis = “two newlyweds suffer from secret phobias.” The newlyweds were going to visit the family of the wife. They live in India. Therefore they will fly and also need injections. However she is phobic of flying and he of needles. Both these are very common. The twist to the story is that nether have told the other of this problem.
How does the story pan out? Well the wife is having hypnotherapy for the phobia. And for once the process was reasonably accurate. (Thank you Tim Sanders (the writer)) The hypnotherapist used systematic desensitisation (SD) when she was in a gentle level trance. It was not instant; there was no swinging watches; and she didn’t go around after clucking like a chicken.
On the other hand the husband goes to have the injection. He tries to get out of it in every way he can; he is rude and aggressive; when he sees the needle he faints. All this is very common in a person suffering from a phobia. The practice nurse tries to use a phobia cure on him but he runs, again a very common behaviour. She claim 100% success rate with patients and needle phobia, this may well be true.
Anyway after some confusion and embarrassment, both wife and husband are cured and all turns out loving and lovely.
So - what about real life? Here I need to say a few things about phobias:
1 - Fear is the bodies’ preparation for you to ether put up a fight or run; it is called fight / flight. It is the base of all strong emotions. We learn most of what we are frightened of, little is genetic. This is why you have to put a fire guard around a fire and socket covers over electric plugs when children are around. They haven yet learnt to be frightened of them.
2 – We learn most fears. Sometimes we mis-learn and therefore something which is completely harmless gets linked to a fight/flight reaction. This is why some people get phobic to that which others cannot understand. Sometimes even telling the person to “just pull yourself together!” This is as useless a helping tool as a chocolate teapot. For the person suffering the reaction is every bit as powerful as if someone was holding a gun to their head. The fact that the reaction is out of proportion to the objects threat does not come into it. The learning of the fear is as deep as the learning that if you press a handle on a door down or turn it – the door opens.
3 – Being frightened of something that can harm you is not a phobia.
I was assisting Paul McKenna in one of his phobia workshops. A guy who had had all his phobias extinguished the day before remarked that there was still a problem. Paul asked what this was. The guy replied that the night before, at 11 o’clock at night, he had to walk to his hotel which was the other side of Hide Park and he was frightened.
Paul remarked that that’s not a phobia, it was his body telling him its dangerous and so it was preparing him for that possibility.
4 – A dislike in not a phobia.
Some people say to me that “Ooh I just don’t like the way spiders move.” My question to that is; “do you get very anxious or even panic?” if the answer is “No!” then its not a phobia is a dislike. This can also be cured. If however you get a fear reaction in the form of anxiety or panic then it is likely to be a phobia.
5 – Many people suffering from a phobia feel that it is incurable.
The most important point of this entry is – ALL PHOBIAS ARE CURABLE. By the very nature of a phobia being irrational in the sense of the object being non-harmful, using the right techniques, any and all phobias will go. Most hypnotherapist and NLP practitioners deal with phobias with ease. Most are based on the simple but effective technique of gradual exposure to the object whilst very relaxed or hypnotized. However NLP had at least seven fast phobia cures which work very well without direct exposure. This is particularly useful in some cases where the client cannot even bare to think of the object. Another, powerful technique is TFT. This is like acupuncture without the needles.
I have used all the above successfully with many clients. It is true now – no one need suffer with a phobia any more.
If you have a phobia please read more on my web site. Help is at hand and if you are in the Milton Keynes area, call me 01908 674 062, otherwise the two societies (SSM) (Hypnotherapy Association) will be pleased to guild you to a well trained and experienced therapist who will be please to help.
How does the story pan out? Well the wife is having hypnotherapy for the phobia. And for once the process was reasonably accurate. (Thank you Tim Sanders (the writer)) The hypnotherapist used systematic desensitisation (SD) when she was in a gentle level trance. It was not instant; there was no swinging watches; and she didn’t go around after clucking like a chicken.
On the other hand the husband goes to have the injection. He tries to get out of it in every way he can; he is rude and aggressive; when he sees the needle he faints. All this is very common in a person suffering from a phobia. The practice nurse tries to use a phobia cure on him but he runs, again a very common behaviour. She claim 100% success rate with patients and needle phobia, this may well be true.
Anyway after some confusion and embarrassment, both wife and husband are cured and all turns out loving and lovely.
So - what about real life? Here I need to say a few things about phobias:
1 - Fear is the bodies’ preparation for you to ether put up a fight or run; it is called fight / flight. It is the base of all strong emotions. We learn most of what we are frightened of, little is genetic. This is why you have to put a fire guard around a fire and socket covers over electric plugs when children are around. They haven yet learnt to be frightened of them.
2 – We learn most fears. Sometimes we mis-learn and therefore something which is completely harmless gets linked to a fight/flight reaction. This is why some people get phobic to that which others cannot understand. Sometimes even telling the person to “just pull yourself together!” This is as useless a helping tool as a chocolate teapot. For the person suffering the reaction is every bit as powerful as if someone was holding a gun to their head. The fact that the reaction is out of proportion to the objects threat does not come into it. The learning of the fear is as deep as the learning that if you press a handle on a door down or turn it – the door opens.
3 – Being frightened of something that can harm you is not a phobia.
I was assisting Paul McKenna in one of his phobia workshops. A guy who had had all his phobias extinguished the day before remarked that there was still a problem. Paul asked what this was. The guy replied that the night before, at 11 o’clock at night, he had to walk to his hotel which was the other side of Hide Park and he was frightened.
Paul remarked that that’s not a phobia, it was his body telling him its dangerous and so it was preparing him for that possibility.
4 – A dislike in not a phobia.
Some people say to me that “Ooh I just don’t like the way spiders move.” My question to that is; “do you get very anxious or even panic?” if the answer is “No!” then its not a phobia is a dislike. This can also be cured. If however you get a fear reaction in the form of anxiety or panic then it is likely to be a phobia.
5 – Many people suffering from a phobia feel that it is incurable.
The most important point of this entry is – ALL PHOBIAS ARE CURABLE. By the very nature of a phobia being irrational in the sense of the object being non-harmful, using the right techniques, any and all phobias will go. Most hypnotherapist and NLP practitioners deal with phobias with ease. Most are based on the simple but effective technique of gradual exposure to the object whilst very relaxed or hypnotized. However NLP had at least seven fast phobia cures which work very well without direct exposure. This is particularly useful in some cases where the client cannot even bare to think of the object. Another, powerful technique is TFT. This is like acupuncture without the needles.
I have used all the above successfully with many clients. It is true now – no one need suffer with a phobia any more.
If you have a phobia please read more on my web site. Help is at hand and if you are in the Milton Keynes area, call me 01908 674 062, otherwise the two societies (SSM) (Hypnotherapy Association) will be pleased to guild you to a well trained and experienced therapist who will be please to help.
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