Christmas is a Coming

Christmas is a time of joy! Is it? For some, all Christmas does is throw into sharp relief just how many and how deep their problems are.

For some, constant pain – crippling debt – family problems – relationship problems – or it could be painful shyness that spoils the season of good will. And isn’t there always someone to remind you that it could be worse so cheer up.

I, for a moment would like to dispel the notion that it is all your own fault. If you could avoid the problem you would. And if you know how to stop the problem, you would. So therefore what is missing in the solutions to these problems?


Debt
After you have started the process of dealing with the owed money you need to deal with the reasons why you got into trouble in the first place. Was it emotional needs? Was it that you slipped into debt so gradually you did not notice? Was it that you earn so little it makes it hard to have enough to live on?

Each of the causes has a cure. Part of the debt solution will include some of what is needed. However you may need to develop even greater power over your money. Coaching, NLP and hypnosis can build such power, helping you to take control of your finances and make them work for you.

Family problems
For most, even with the high divorce rate, family is a rock. For some though their family is the cause of their problems not the resolution, just watch any of the TV
‘show’s of the Trisha type. Rows; ill feeling; misunderstandings; feuds, and the like can blight the jolly and festive season.

Often talking over the problems you are having with a trained person who will listen without judgement; with genuine respect and regard; and who will help you to see things more clearly, more focused. This is called counselling. And when counselling is linked to coaching or hypnotherapy – it becomes a very powerful tool to help you become more in control of your own future.

Relationship problems
The pressure of Christmas can force cracks in a otherwise loving and supportive relationship. Jealousy; distrusted; feelings of rejection; feeling undervalued, all of these can start a vicious spiral into breaking up. Taking steps early can revive and renew the relationship. Counselling with a couples counsellor is very helpful. Relate is probably the best, however there are many counsellors who have been trained by Relate. I personally do not do couples counselling as this is a particular skill.

If a relationship fails it takes time to overcome the links with the ex partner. Even if it was you who chose to stop, it still hurts. There are all the incriminations; ‘What could I have done to save it?’ All the ‘might have beens’; All the same places and people; and all that you shared.

Hypnotherapy, NLP and counselling are there to help lessen the blow and help you gain control for yourself.See my web site for more information.

Shyness
Shyness can be so debilitating. The lack of confidence and esteem that is shyness stops the shy person fulfilling that most basic of needs, to have friends and more so, that special relationship which gives so much. There can, and is often, a lack of social skills. Research shows that people who lack the ability to read body language also are more at risk from psychological illness. This is also true of people who do not form good friendships.

NLP with hypnosis can build for you, confidence and esteem. Also training in body language and rapport greatly changes your ability to form relationships. How different life will be.


For all the above – if you want more information please feel free to look at my web site.

Merry Christmas to you all.

Winter Solstice

The 22nd of December is the Winter solstice (the shortest day of the year). Many of you will already be feeling the effects of SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). This is when there is not enough light in the day. The happens in autumn and winter. Symptoms are lack of energy, headaches, sleepy, fatigued and wanting to eat more carbohydrates. For more information see: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder

Often a solution offered is ‘pull yourself together,’ or ‘just do more exercise.’ Exercise is good for the reduction of depression, however it does not get to the root. Pills can also help, they again do not get to the root.

Probably the best method for reducing the effects of SAD is a light box. However, research shows (Cognitive Reactivity In Seasonal Affective Disorder) that therapy can help to. This is usually in the form of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural therapy). The idea behind CBT is that it’s our thinking which needs to change to help us out of depression. CBT is very good at enabling change in thinking. However, hypnotherapy and NLP are both excellent at dealing with this and other forms of depression.

The hypnotherapy-NLP solution is an enjoyable, safe therapy which helps get to the root as well as change the sufferers’ mood directly.

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